
JOSEPH VELAZQUEZ
MA, LMFTA
You can feel better, live inspired & get anchored!
Reaching out for help is the first step in taking care of yourself.
You are here because you are tired of things feeling out of whack in your life and in your relationships. You feel like you are finally ready to reach out and take your life back.
The impact of stress can make our mind, body, and spirit go out of balance and leave us feeling lost.
Maybe you are unsure about the direction of your life, although you work hard to make it look picture-perfect and complete. Maybe you are experiencing a powerful sense of loneliness and a cascade of self-talk telling you that you just aren’t good enough.
Maybe you grew up in a disconnected home, where the care you received was less than ideal. Things from the past are still bothering you but you have never been able to open up and talk about it.
Maybe some parts of you are thriving, but with all of the plates you’re spinning, you’re starting to feel like you can’t keep up.
Although you’re not sure that therapy can solve all your problems, you feel confident that there are answers to your questions and there is hope for the future.
Having grown up in a broken home, I’m familiar with that sinking feeling of knowing that something isn’t right, yet not having the tools to change my experience.
For many years I struggled, filling my voids with more voids, always trying to prove to myself and others that I am good enough and worthy of love. I made a lot of the same mistakes over and over before I was able to finally get myself together and create enduring changes. I am not perfect, but I have a lot of life experience.
I became a therapist to help other people who are hurting and stuck. You do not have to believe the voices from the past or present that try to undermine your sense of self-worth or your ability to live with confidence.
You see other people finding balance in their lives and wonder how to find that for yourself. Love and belonging are lifelong needs of all people. Your relationships can improve—starting with your relationship to yourself.
Many clients come in asking questions like these:
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How can I live more consistently with my values and vision for my life?
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Why do I have so much doubt even when things are going well?
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Why can’t I ever trust myself to make good decisions and follow through?
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Why do my relationships feel disconnected and unsatisfying?
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Why can’t my partner and I communicate effectively?
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How can I feel more connected to my children?
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Why doesn’t momentum ever last when things start to improve?
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Will I ever feel confident and at peace?
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Will my bad feelings about myself ever go away?
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How can I reevaluate my purpose and life’s meaning after COVID-19?
I help by:
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Creating a safe space to allow your difficult thoughts and feelings to surface
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Showing you how to sit with those difficult thoughts and feelings and process through them in healthy ways
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Giving you confidence to make healthy decisions for your path in life and in your relationships
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Teaching you how to reframe struggles based on your current strengths and natural supports.
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Pinpointing barriers that get in the way of you living according to your values
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Identifying and questioning what you really believe about yourself and your worth
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Teaching you how small, consistent steps create big, lasting changes
The first step is reaching out.
I will help you transform the way you live, love, parent, create, and lead.
Areas of focus and special interest:
I bring over 20-years of relevant experience with individuals and families. I have counseled children with special needs and their siblings. I also work with teens and adults, providing individual, couples, and family therapy.
In my personal life, I embrace a strong Christian ethos. I enjoy working with other Christians to work through challenges of life and faith. I also enjoy working with people of other faiths or of none.
Part of my clinical training includes contextualizing how culture, privilege, racism, sexism, and oppression can show up in areas of personal and social struggle.
I have completed Levels I and II of Gottman Couples Therapy training. This model serves as the cornerstone of my work with couples. I am familiar with many therapeutic modalities and tailor my approach to client needs. I’m specifically drawn to a client-centered perspective that builds on existing strengths and natural supports. I also use a systemic lens to consider how all pieces of a family system work together.
Areas of Focus:
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Individual, Marriage & Family Counseling
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Children & children with developmental disabilities
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Premarital Counseling
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Relationship Enrichment
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Christian Living and/or
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Crisis of Faith
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Life after the pandemic
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Restoring purpose/meaning
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Existential crisis
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Life Transitions
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Family Issues Around Divorce
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Family conflict
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Men's Issues, Health & Wellness
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Isolation in the Digital Age
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Work/life Balance
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Lack of Direction, Feeling “Stuck”
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Loneliness
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Depression & Anxiety
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Behavioral Issues
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Parenting
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Over Indulgence
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Blended families & Co-Parenting
- Self-Care
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Codependency
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Abandonment
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The Creative Process
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Adult Children of Addicts or Alcoholics
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Social-skills for adolescents
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Academic performance
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Life-Skill Building for Adolescents
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Past Abuse
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Navigating Generational Family Issues with Immigrant Families
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Career Counseling
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Coping Skills
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Emotional Disturbance
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Executive Men & Women with Anxiety from High Pressure Jobs
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Grief & Loss
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Self Esteem & Rediscovery
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Sexual Abuse
WA State Credential: MG 60952164